真実の愛 What is "true love"?
I went to the chat room of ET last night, and there already were a few females. All of them were Asians from Korea, China, Taiwan and Japan. One of them said, "Let's talk about something romantic.", and one of others replied, "OK. How about true love?" TRUE LOVE. Ok, ladies, I'm in. Let's talk.But before that, I just asked her about her definition of true love, because I thought it differed in individuals.She answered my question."True love is something that can change the world. Playing sex isn't true love."Yes, she asserted so with confidence.Uh-oh. She must have had a high thinking about love because she was from one of those Asian countries. You know, its religion must have worked on her. I could guess what she wanted to say, and that was, for example, some good deeds what Mother Teresa did in her great life. But I'm sorry. I'm not such a great person and I think I won't be.Besides, I've been busy performing daily household chores and taking care of my family and myself, especially now I can't walk well yet because of my this broken leg. For me, "the world" means my beloved kids and husband. In fact, I don't have any room in my heart to think over performing such high thought of true love. So after she asserted, I couldn't say anything. I couldn't just come across the idea what I should say.But now, I can tell her about the true love for me. While I was taking a bath, I thought it over and over. "You said playing sex isn't true love. But I think making love is true love. I think it's worthy to make every efforts to build and keep a better and more reliable relationship with the man you love through this profound act."I don't know if she was married or not. Maybe she wasn't. But everybody will agree to the opinion that it's quite difficult to keep love which must have existed just when they've fallen in love each other. To keep loveing someone sometimes requires sacrifices, forgiveness and generosity from you. Making sure that I'm loved and vice versa, I believe your heart can be filled with joy, happiness, peace and kindness, and you can build much better relationship with your partner.And if you are a mother, I'm sure this works in good way to make a better relationship between you and your kids and you can make your family happy.I believe this is also true love which is respectworthy.昨夜チャットで一緒したのは中国、韓国、台湾、日本からのアジア女性たち。「真実の愛について話しましょうよ」ということになりました。それ、乗った!でも、いったい「真実の愛」て何? そんなの人によって解釈はいろいろなんじゃない?するとひとりのアジア女性が自信たっぷりに言ってくださいました。「それは世界を変えるほどの何かよ。セックスなんて真実の愛じゃないわ」あちゃ~、と思いました。きっと彼女は自国の宗教の教えをモロに受けてるのかもしれません。彼女の言わんとすることは十分想像できます。きっとマザー・テレサがその偉大な生涯で成した立派な行いのようなことを言いたいんでしょう。でも、ごめん。私はそんな立派な人間じゃないし、これからもそうなりそうにはないです。第一、子どものため、ダンナのための毎日の家事をこなすので忙しい。特に今は足の骨を折ってまともに歩けないため、そんな崇高なことを考えるような心の余裕は皆無です。彼女に断言されて、何も言えなくなりました。なんと言っていいのか、言葉に詰まっちゃった感じです。でも、今なら私は言えます。お風呂に入りながら考えに考えましたから。「playing sex は真実の愛じゃないとあなたは言ったけど、わたしは making love は真実の愛だと思うよ」と。お互いを理解しあい関係をよりベターなものにするために、セックスはとても有用だし意味のあることです。それに、2人が恋に落ちたときには確かにそこに在った愛を長年維持するのはとても大変なことで、愛し続けるという行為はときに犠牲、許す心を要求しますよね。でも、私は愛されている、愛していると確信すると、心は喜び、幸福感、穏やかさで満たされ、その立場が母親というものであれば、子どもともいい関係を作るのに大いに役立つと思うのです。ひいては家族を幸せにできるんですから。これだって立派な愛だと思います。