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Looking for Truth or Looking for Praise?

From the inspiring words of Shokan Kobayashi...

I wanted to eat ramen, but when I was ordering, I saw a sign for kitsune udon and unintentionally said, “I'll have kitsune udon, please.

The “heart” was ninety-nine and ninety-nine percent ramen, but the words that came out of my mouth were “kitsune udon.

The person who took my order trusted the words “kitsune udon” and brought me kitsune udon.

The person who receives the order trusts the words “kitsune udon” and brings the ramen, but he or she does not take “my heart” into consideration and brings the ramen.

Also, rather than thanking family and friends with “Thank you for everything” from the heart, saying “Thank you” in words conveys the message, and the recipient is pleased.

Words have more energy than the heart.

There are “three elements” in “throwing”: “heart,” “words,” and “action.

The “heart” is to orient oneself to “live to please.

Words” means to make the words that come out of one's mouth into words of joy and gratitude.

Actions” are to put into practice.

It is important that the “casting” be accompanied by “heart,” “words,” and “action.

In the Gospel of John, we read the following words

In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.

These words seem to describe how the universe works.

If the words coming out of one's mouth are colored by grumbling, complaining, whining, bad-mouthing, and complaining, phenomena will fall that will make one want to say those words.

On the contrary, for those who are colored by positive words such as happy, joyful, happy, and thank you, such phenomena will fall.

I have consulted with many people in the past, and there were certain common threads among those who said they had problems.

People whose parent-child relationships do not flow smoothly also have marital relationships that do not flow smoothly. Siblings, workplaces, and neighborhoods all have problems.

Conversely, if a person's parent-child relationship and marital relationship are flowing smoothly, all relationships are flowing smoothly.

No one relationship is stagnant and the others are flowing smoothly.

People who have problems somewhere else have fights in other relationships as well.

The difference between the two is that they are looking for trouble.

People who are looking for something new will always find something they don't like (looking for something new) in any relationship, no matter what is happening, which leads to fights and troubles.

Instead of looking for something new, look for only the good things and praise them.

When we look at how blessed we are, appreciate everything, and find joy in everything, our relationships and the events around us will be surrounded by joyful things.

Everything is transmitted by me.

It depends on whether you are looking for the truth or looking for praise.

The Happiness Theory of Living with “Omakase”: The Encouragement of Dereliction, East Press
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We tend to want people to understand our feelings and our hearts, saying things like, “I feel so deeply about this,” or “I've been thinking about this for a long time.

However, no matter how strongly we feel, unless it is put into words, it will not be conveyed to the other person.

This is true no matter how close you are to your family, friends, or colleagues.

And the same goes for harassment like bullying. Even if you feel in your heart that you “definitely want it to stop” or “really don't like it,” unless you say it out loud and ask them to stop, it will continue for a long time.

And since such people are often the type of “nice” people, no matter how much they are harassed, their faces are always smiling.

So they don't get the message even more.

The other person may wonder if they are happy or not.

Also, human relationships are determined by whether you are “looking for something wrong” or “looking for praise.

As long as you are “looking for something new,” all relationships will not improve.

This is because the habit of “looking for something new” has been established.

Everyone has strengths and weaknesses.

That is why we need to get into the habit of “looking for praise.

It will dramatically improve your relationships.

A person who can “look for praise” is a person who can “fully affirm” others.

They are able to accept and affirm everything, good and bad, about the other person.

Looking for praise is affirmation.

Looking for the bad is negative.

Only when one is positive can one be adventurous.

We can have dreams and hopes.

In other words, we can support people who have dreams because we can admire everything.

On the other hand, when we are negative, we become obsessed with finding fault with others, looking for reasons why we can't do something, and dragging down those who are willing to try.

I want to be a person who can be absorbed in the “search for admiration.